2009 vs. 2019
#2009vs2019 is trending on Twitter right now. While it's fun to see how we've changed on the outside, I find it far more interesting to reflect what has changed on the inside.
Some lessons I've learned in the last 10 years:
· “The Secret” is that you need a hopeful attitude and plenty of hard work to get ahead. You’re not magic and you can’t manifest like a genie.
· Sometimes divorce is the best option. For everyone, including the kids.
· Hope is a life raft to carry you through treacherous waters to your next destination. Friends, Family, and a glass of wine are great to have along for the ride!
· If you have integrity, you'll have trust.
· Travel. Do that thing. Your expiration date might be tomorrow, so do it today.
· If you live life with the thought that everyone is doing the best they can with what they've got, it's a bit easier to forgive, and not be weighted down by a grudge.
· My faith community pulled me in closer when I got a divorce. I wasn’t shunned. God is love.
· The Catholic annulment process, in my experience, is a charitable gift. It’s like intense therapy to discover how you missed the signs that you weren’t marrying your forever person, so that hopefully you get it right the next time, if your heart pulls you in that direction.
· Asking for help is a gift for both the giver and the receiver.
· Going to church is like going to the gym. It's good to exercise your faith, and not let it atrophy.
· Maya Angelou was right when she said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
· It’s okay for your kids to go through tough stuff. Consider it a wonderful thing that they can do it with a loving parent to guide them. They’ll be set to deal with future challenges life hands them.
· All the technology in the world can't fulfill our basic need for human connection.
· Embracing your flaws is a relief. When you stop pretending, you can start focusing on what you do well and rock that shit!
· There is a lot of humor to be found in dating in a tech-world.
· It can be entertaining to troll "rich widower" profiles that are trying to catphish you.
· Life is short. Minimize the toxic people in your life.
· Explore outside your bubble. Life is enriched when you surround yourself with diverse people and their take on the world.
· Spending money you saved toward a big goal is richly rewarding.
· Listen without judgement: You'll earn trust and deeper relationships in the process.
· Just when you think you have it all figured out, something will happen to make you realize you don’t. Enjoy the lessons. We’re never done learning.
· When you take a risk and put yourself out there, you open yourself to connecting with others. A true connection may turn into a life long friend.